BECOME THE WOMAN WHO NEVER SETTLES AGAIN.
My Story
Hi, I’m Aniedra, but my clients call me Annie. I’m the founder of K.I.S.S. Relationships, and my mission is to help women keep it safe and secure in love, in life, and within themselves.
My work is shaped by both personal transformation and professional depth. I once had a fearful avoidant attachment style, leaning dismissive. I understand how attachment patterns shape our relationships and the partners we gravitate toward, because the subconscious often pulls us toward what feels familiar, even when it isn’t healthy.
Becoming legally emancipated at seventeen forced me into independence before I had the emotional tools and maturity to navigate it safely. At the time, that independence was not a strength. It was survival.
I did not grow up in an emotionally safe environment, and learning to disconnect became a form of self-protection long before I understood it.
Because of that, I learned to survive by becoming hyper-independent and hyper-vigilant. Those patterns helped me stay alert, capable, and in control, but they also kept me guarded and emotionally distant.
After a deeply personal incident, just as my life had started to get better with the help of friends and family, I was losing the war in my own mind and knew I needed structure, discipline, and a healthier way forward.
That realization led me to join the military, not to be a hero, but to survive.
Shortly after turning twenty-one, I joined the United States Army and deployed in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom / Operation Enduring Freedom. I later advanced quickly in rank and served honorably as a Sergeant (E-5).
The military reinforced discipline and responsibility, but it did not heal my attachment wounds. Structure strengthened me, but it did not regulate me.
In the years that followed, I stepped into another form of discipline as an IFBB professional competitor and coach. I helped women transform their bodies through structure, consistency, and discipline, and I witnessed firsthand how physical change could positively impact self-esteem.
However, through my own competitive journey, I gained a deeper understanding of what change can and cannot do. I quickly learned that external change alone is not enough.
Over time, I began to recognize repeating patterns in my own life. The same dynamics. The same outcomes. Different faces.
As I reflected on those patterns, I started noticing that when I allowed myself into romantic connection, I was consistently drawn to emotionally unavailable men. This was not because I lacked worth, but because my nervous system was repeating what felt familiar rather than what was actually safe.
That awareness marked the real shift.
I eventually realized that insight alone wasn’t enough. Knowing why I was the way I was didn’t automatically change how I showed up or who I chose. Real healing required me to slow down, get honest with myself, and learn how to feel safe within my own body instead of staying in survival mode.
It also meant letting go of habits that delayed real healing and learning to walk away with grace rather than resentment.
Choosing sobriety became one of the ways God brought greater clarity, self-trust, and emotional grounding into my life.
I’ve always been intrigued by human behavior, what drives people, what shapes them, and why they do what they do. I continue to deepen that understanding through ongoing study in psychology with a focus in Christian counseling through Liberty University. I am also certified in integrated attachment theory through The Personal Development School founded by Thais Gibson.
What changed wasn’t just how much I understood — it was how I lived. I stopped chasing intensity and started paying attention to what actually felt safe, steady, and aligned. I learned the difference between coping and healing, between chemistry and emotional safety, and between staying out of fear and leaving with self-respect.
That shift is what ultimately changed everything.
“Healing required becoming someone new. It meant letting go of my old patterns through humility, surrender and full accountability for how I showed up in relationships.”
Meet Annie,
your guide to secure love.
I know how painful it is to feel unseen, abandoned, or stuck in the same patterns. I’ve studied Attachment Theory deeply and worked with women who felt hopeless about love, and I’ve witnessed them transform. My mission is simple: to help you heal your core wounds, break free from repeating cycles, and finally create relationships that feel safe and fulfilling.